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Hello sir I am 37 years old male and married since 5 years and we had little girl of 4 years old. I need some advice for my relationship. We had problems in our relationship since the beginning of our engagement, as initially I was unaware of my wife's extra marital affairs when I come to know about it she told why she started to see other boy during engagement period also after our marriage as I wasn't upto her expectations, that was the time of 2019 . We had discussed about all each others expectations and solved the problem I tried to regain the confidence in our relationship but still somewhere we had fights every 5 to 6 months on different issues sometimes it's my parents sometimes it's me I dont give her time sometimes financially , in between she left my house and went to her father's home for 8 months after delivery of our baby girl, she told we are not made for each other I told her and explained all about consequences and convinced her to get her back. After that for again after 6 months we started fight with each other on different issues. But recently we fight and she lost control and slapped me and unfortunately in the vague of my anger I also slapped her and she again left me and went to her father house . It's been 1 month now we don't have contact each other because every time I only asked her for compromises and explain and convincing her to come back. This time I don't know what to do.thanks

Hi..I just saw your page and found this is the right page where I can get answer.. I am so confused and so my thoughts coming in my mind and noone in my life which I can tell. However, I found you hopefully you'll get my answer I want to marry with my partner but he is not earning as much and I'm also earning but we both started our career in 2023. And my parents wants I should get Marry with someone and he is searching. But I told my parents that I love someone but the issue is he is not from my caste that is not the big issue main issue is that my partner belongs from very nuclear family like his mother and sister is there and noone is there in his family and my parents also saying the boy is not earning a good salary and noone is there in his family how will you be happy and I don't think so he is good for you.. but my partner loves me so much he loves me till 6 years and he waited for me also. My question is that for getting a married is all this stuff matters ? My parents is arising so many questions somehow she denied..should I convince to my parents or they are saying right ??

Hello madam, i m 32 year married women, my husband love me more than anything, he is good in everything, he take care of me, he bring me whatever i want, he is very good in bed also. We dont have kids because i never loved my husband. Before marriage i had boyfriend, he never accepted me and assured me that he will marry me, so i decided to marry my husband in 2019. Till oct 2022, i used to communicate with my ex boyfriend, but when he got married he stopped calling me and i also stoped thinking about him. Lately, in Sept 2023, i meet guy in my office he is 23, music teacher, not so good looking, not completed graduation, not financial strong but i developed feeling for him. I lied to him, told i am not married, to get close to him. Once my husband caught me cheating with him in whatsapp messages, told me to not do. But still i went ahead to continue my relationship with this young guy and want to live with this guy. I want to divorce and live with young guy. My parents and family love and respect my husband like their own son. I am doing correct or not please suggest me.

Hi, i am 34 yrs old married for the last 4 yrs. I married a man knowing he is alcoholic. I started having second thoughts before getting married as he used to be very abusive after getting drunk and calling me and fighting for silly reasons but I din have the guts to call of the wedding. I had told him that I am not someone who is very fond of sex and I am very scared to have sex as I feel it's painful for which he was okay thinking I would change after marriage. Both of us din want to have kids. It's been 4 yrs I have not had sex Nor has he ever forced me to. Tat way he respects me is what I believe, the reason initially I used to deny was he used to drink and come home , just few days after being wed he came drunk abused me pushed me around kicked me while I was sleepin. Things escalated during lockdown he is mentally verbally abusive , emotionally not available. He has a problem with everyone around him, I have told him multiple times that we could go for counseling, he says okay at times and later abuses me for suggesting it. I have always been there for him, supported mentally , emotionally and financially. But I get nothing in return. I used to feel it's all coz of me not having sex but will having sex just solve all this? It's not like I have not gone to meet psychiatrists I have and they advised me few things and I have also told my husband that let's have sex but he tells some reason. Also, we do get physical make out and everything except for sex, it would be more like dry humping. He says when he is in a good mood that it's not about sex. He has had this abusive behaviour right from day one. Why is sex given so much importance in society much more than basic care and affection? M I at fault here? Please help me.

I have two daughters, both unmarried and working in different companies in Bengaluru and staying together in a rented house. But there is lack of harmony between them and often small arguments between them for petty reasons is creating a devide between them. How should i address this, as both are dear to me and I wish both of them to stay together, peacefully.

Hi Ma'am, I am 66 years old my wife has expired since 11 months and i am in affair with my brother sister in law who is divorce and by age 55 years in services .I have two audit children's well settled married and living separately . they have their kids and enjoying their life . I feel alone and could not pass time on holiday . During my working days services it is ok in office . we use to meeting on holiday . she is staying with his younger brother . even she want to have happy relation with me . How can i convene my children's and her family member . kindly advise .

Hi mam plz help me to solve my problem , I was in relation with a guy I met him in office , and he is good boy because he helped me alot in my tasks , slowly I got attracted to him , and the attraction turns into liking ... I did not refused what he says I have to do it ..that time I was engaged ...and he wants me to meet him privately and refused that sir I am engaged I can't do this ..but he threatens if you will not come i will tell to your fiance and it will affect to your marriage ..I am agreeing what he says and he forced me to do this ..now I am married and my husband is abroad ..now he threating and harrassing me for s*x ...he says he will tell your husband ..I am in so much of stress plz help me mam to get rid of this situation what should I do if he tells my husband ..he will ruin my life and can't involve my parents they are both patient ...he is threating me so much if I tell to police they will involve my parents as well which I don't want ...I blocked him from all the social media but he kept messaging because I am getting notification from blocked messages ..and he keep threating me

hello love guru.. i am 38 years old married for 15 years with 2 daughters. In 2020 i met with a call girl. Slowly i started to meet her regularly and now in last 6 months we both are madly in love with eachtother. my wife came to know and i told her i will leave her. i am not meeting her since last 1 month but mentally i am unable to move on. i am feeling gulity that i left her. please advice.

i am smart hndsome but a girl said me chapri apni shakal dekhi hai

Hi sir I am 50 years and My wife 43 years of age. For last 5 years her libido has deteriorated drastically. Nowadays she doesn't interested in sex anymore. But my urge is too much. In addition to that her menopausal period has just started. I don't know whether it is because of hormone imbalance or anything else. Pls suggest what to do to boost up her libido.

Hi, During sex with my wife I asked her that will she be ok with multiple partners to solve our sexual desires.Her inner heart says ok but she is scared of doing so.Not strangers but known circles.What is ur opinion I can convince her and how can we take it forward

Hii Love Guru, My questions is I am alone 47 yrs single mother. I am single from last 13 yrs. I am having intense of sex. I want also I had sex too. What to do. Please guide me. Sometimes it make me restless. please help

Hello Madam,I am 48 year old ,Widower.My wife died last year after a long fought battle with Cancer. I have 2 daughters ,elder one who is 18 year old and younger 13 year old. Financially I am well placed. My wife had a short lived affair 6 years back with one of our family friends but she stayed with me for her daughters and started loving me once her friend got shifted to another city. I never showed her that I knew anything.What should I do now? I love my daughters very much and cannot leave them alone.Should I remarry. My wife also used to say that I should marry after her death.

I am 43 years male. Got married at the age of 38. My marriage last hardly 2 years. From 3-4 years we love separately. She always use to fight for small small reasons. Some time without reasons. Always check use to check my mobile and doubt on me. I cougt her chatting with some stranger. After asking telling her that person is her well wisher.. i doubt on her. She alway hide many things. Never openup and ahare anything. She used to lie with me. I caught her many times about this. I asking her for divorce but she is not ready for.. she still wants to stay with me.. but i don't like her now...pls guide.

I'm 56 years and my wife is 54 years old. We are happily married couple but my wife has lost interest in sex since last two years. I have tried to have a frank conversation with her in past and found that either she avoids the topic or she says "act your age". As a result, I feel demoralised and feel frustrated. Please advise how to revive our sex life? Shall I consult a doctor t resolve this issue?

I have had my heart broken severely a couple of years ago. I used to be a fun person, but I have become angry and bitter. I don't think about the person a lot, but I feel being dumped after a long relationship is cruel. I don't want to grow old and bitter. Please tell me the best way to move on and go back to being my old jovial self. Don't tell me to discover love again because that is not possible.

my Friend is in touch with a girl since last 13 years, she is 12 years younger to him. They met at common friend's place and my friend start loving her. At the time of their meeting, my friend was married and she was unmarried, but was in relationship with another guy. after sometime, girl got married with his boyfriend with the help of my friend only. he got hurt but somehow helped her in getting married with the boy of her choice after some time the girl got divorced and my friend provided her emotional support she require to recover from this setback. over the period, she start demanding lot of stuff from my friend, like phones, watches, clothes, gold etc. even she call him, if want to eats anything from outside. but other hand she ignoring him, when she is with her friends and start behaving like stranger and gives reasons like, you are too old for her company, what her friend think of her etc. my friend is attached emotionally with her very much and dancing on her tunes. my friends shares everything with me and i know, he would go mad, if she even stop talkin with him. many a times, i tried to discuss this with my friend, but he is in total control of her. he told me, i would continue to help her, so she would keep talking with him. they never got physical. Even i had discussed this with girl, why you are doing such thing with my friend, every time she reply, she demanding such things with capacity of his friend. he (my friend) can deny, if he doesn't want to help me, i have lot of choices. she is also working and earning fairly. now i am in dilemma, how to help my friend.

Dear Experts, I am a male married for almost 30+ years. We enjoyed our marriage for 5 years but after that the troubles popped in. Since I lost my mother, I requested my father to allow me a divorce but he declined. I consider myself a very good counsellor but here i failed. I tried everything to change her attitude, but whenever I talk we end up arguing as result I start consuming alcohal and this continues for a week or 10 days. I have 2 kids a lovely daugher who is married and a son who is working. My wife always plays a vitim card because of that my children are against me. We have no physical intimacy for the almost 20+ years. I have tried to explain her the importance of physical intimacy but failed. Because of this my professional life is always in a turmoil. My in laws also blaming me for all ths sh*t and keep on arguing with me every time they visit. I really don't know what to do now. Please suggest. Thanks

Hello sir, I am 52 years handicapped with a good govt. job. I have been married for 27 years now. My son also married recently and he is in USA. I dont know where to start. Mine was arranged marriage. But my husband and his family cheated us regarding his job. He was jobless after our marriage. I had a son in the first year of our marriage. I stayed with him for only 2 months then I was send to my fathers house for delivery. He never visited me during this time nor he had called me. As he was jobless, I tried hard to build my carrier for sake of my son. I had managed all these years financially. I never received any financial support or emotional support from him past 27 years. We had fought badly accusing each. He will physically abuse me every time. He is addicted to alcohol and watching prone movies. My son once saw his mssg to call girls and other such women in his mobile. I was shocked too. Later I discovered he had many such connections. He had been spending his merger salary for all this self enjoyment and never shared anything for HL or son education. However, I had stayed with him for social security and status. Now I have completed all my duties. My son is safe and far from him. Even after my sons marriage, he behaved violently after consuming alcohol. I am really fed up with him. I have my income and properties. But I have no one to share my emotions as my son also has left and busy with his life in USA. I don't need any physical needs but need emotional support for rest of my life. I am in total depression for all I have undergone for 27 years. I currently having my father who is 80 years with me in the house. My husbands behaviour towards my father is very bad. Now my fathers health is getting affected because of my husbands shouting. I have no other friends or relations to relate to. My health also is getting slowly affected and I my mobility is very much restricted. Sometimes I was having succidal ideas. I have no life goals now. I have achieved all my goals. I have completed all my duties now. What should I do now?

I am 52 year old married manwith good physique and working as a higher group executive . For last few months I m in a relationship with a married lady who works with me and in just next subordinate to me who is married and 40 yr old. In my married life though I love my wife, she is keeping distance from me and our relationship is not at all in good shape. Also We r staying in separate house. I have a son 18yrs. My extramarital partner is also not happy in her family life. But she is very caring and expressed her respect and affection for me. I also care for her and I expressed my feelings to her. We respect each other very much and we feel good when we together. Our relationship is purely mutual respect and caring. No physical attraction for each other ,except occasional hug with affection. I donot know the future of our relationship. What should I do. I tried to just move on but unable to do so. She also tried as she told me, but whenever we come across we could not resist to think again and again for each other. Please advise.

Dear LG, I m a 43 year old man who has a 37 year old wife and in relationship for 13 years. we have kids . Recently I caught my wife having physical relation with her 65 year old boss in my house. This after coming to know from one of staff leaking info to me and me keeping hidden camera to catch this in my house. Shocking part is she also had physical with her boss's son and my close friend. This happenings were common in her office also . I agree that my wife seeked solace outside since I became weak in satisfying her physically and also because she was getting enough salary hikes, costly gifts from her bosses. Change was visible in her style , dressing also . Now its obvious I have been cheated and don't want to continue this relation anymore but worried about my kids. So dont know what to do and every neighbour, office person look my wife in a different way post these incident.

i am trying to get girl for marriage for 15 years but not getting girl for marriage, you have any solution for this ?

Hi, we are married for 19 years and have two kids.My wife is ill tempered, very rude and aggressive. Even if I tell her not to get angry and change her attitude, she argues by asking am I so bad? is it my fault always and never ever agrees that she is wrong. Counselling, Communicating and nothing will change her behaviour. Off Iate I understood that she is having an affair with my friend (which is safe because often he comes to our home and he is very close with all of us). If I ask her about this she will never ever accept, rather would retaliate by asking, have I gone insane? She will tear me apart by her aggressive behaviour. She is faking her love towards me and talks all sweet things whenever she requires me or my services as a husband. I am not interested in any counselling or any other such services. She will not budge or accept, thats guaranteed. Please, guide me and kindly dont bring kids angle in this, that will not help me. Shall I divorce (I am sure, it will be initial drama and later on it will not make any difference to her, she is independent and is a professional beautician. I am ready to gift her the plot which is in my name, she will be more than happy). what to do with this kind of aggressive and non accepting behaviour?

Hi, Iam 42 and married for last 12 years with two kids. Due to the scuffles between us my wife left me with kids and have been living away for last 4 years. During this time, a girl of, 15 years younger to me, came in my life and I found a true soul mate in her, may be due to the void which was created because of my wife leaving me. Last year that girl got married to someone else, as she has already planned and conveyed to me right in the beginning of our relationship. In, last one year, my wife is also trying to come close to me, as I have been bearing all their expenses and have been trying to be a good and reasonable father and husband (though I myself is pretty lonely, after my girl's departure) and my wife and kids are now finding me to be a great and responsible man. But me, at the deep down level, is drowning every single day and finding it unbearable to live without my girl. Do not know what to do. That girl is living happily with her husband and planning for the kids. At the same time, she on and off calls me and ask for the monetary favours, which I have been fulfilling even after her marriage. Iam broken and helpless. Kindly help.

My wife is extremely sensitive to even smallest of criticism either received directly or indirectly. She gets panic attacks and suffers from the situation for about 10 days. She is unable to leave any of the not so good/bad memories and thus keeps thinking of them all over time. She feels and talks hopeless and useless during this period, which also includes getting separated and ending her life. We have 2 childs of 14 and 9 years. She does not talks to anyone when her mood is off. I have been keeping extreme patience during all the time and always tried to console her and explain her that we also have good memories to remember. But seems she doesn't understands these things. We also consulted one psychiatrist, who gave her Ketamine treatment. She was fine for sometime only but after some time she said that she will not go to any doctor now, and let the situation prevail as it is until she is living. I am totally shattered and perplexed on this situation and could not focus on my job and any other thing in life. What to do, pl advise. I am not able to see her in this situation which is not so bad according to most of the people, but she is filled with so much of hate and negativity that she is not able to understand the things and value them.

Dear expert, I am married for last almost 12 years and having a son. It is an arranged marriage. Before getting married, I was informed by my wife's relatives (uncles, aunts, wife's brothers, sister etc) that they do not have any relations with her FATHER as he had abandoned his kids (post-death of her wife and got re-married without family consent). After almost 4 years of our marriage, my wife and her relatives accepted him. Now, my wife has left my house leaving (third time) me and my son but, ready to return with the condition that I and my family MUST accept her father in our life and house else she would not return (emotional blackmailing!). She is planning to forcefully bring her uncles, father and other relatives for a discussion at my home. There is no doubt that I will entertain them or discuss anything with them as her father had abused my entire family in the past. In turn, I have searched a rented house and will shift without any fights with anyone. Am I heading a right direction?

I got married in the year 2013 and it was an arranged marriage planned by my parents. I have only one sister who got married in the year 2012. My wife has some issues with my mother and my sister few months after I got married. The primary issue was that my mother and my sister do back biting about her on mobile phone. Although I always denied it and asked my wife to don't focus too much on it. However, last year my wife got call recordings from my mother's phone where my sister was talking meanly about my wife which even I did not like it. I called my wife and brother in law to my place to resolve the differences and it resulted in a better relationship. We recently moved to our newly built house and on the day of the function, my wife saw from a distance my mother and my sister talking to each other in a low tone. She thought they were again talking about her and she got angry. However, my mother denied it and said they were talking about some other issues. My sister came to our place few days after the function and my wife did not talk properly with her. That made my mother angry and she in turn did not talk well with my mother in law who came to our house just recently. Now my wife and mother don't talk to each other and the vibes are quite bad when I enter the house. What can I do to make these complex relations work better?

Hi Mam, I'm 54,, my wife is 50. We have a son. I've not had a physical relationship with wife for the last 3 years. I get aroused by other women but not a bit by my wife. What to do?

Hi, my wife is having affair with two of my friends and we are separated. Should I be eligible for alimony upon divorce. Pls advice

I am 40yrs guy blessed with 7yrs daughter, my wife has passed away in accident on before few months.. she has excepted that mummy will not come back.... I am worried about my daughter... currently my parents are taking care of her but they are also aged... how she will grow up without mother in her teenage she needs mother na... do I need to get married again...it is very difficult to find similar wife/mother again..

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I am married for 8 years .I concieved through IVF and have a kid 3 years old . My husband has never shown interest not initiated for sex .all these years . He even sleeps in different room .never touches me . Many times I have confronted him on our intimacy and sexless marriage.but he doesn't respond on this .it seems every thing is normal for him .but for me I feel I messed my life with a man who is so indifferent to me. How shall I know him ?

Hello experts..for the cancer treatment of a friend, we had collected around 15-17 lakhs of money and her family had transferred 7 lakhs..so total amount in her account was 23-25 lakhs,of which 10 lakhs has been spent in treatment and rest money was transferred to her- to- be husband(fiancee) account,who kept the money as Fixed deposit for 4 months. She is 24 years old. Will it create trouble for her or her fiance in income tax issues? Pleass suggest ways to avoid trouble.

Hi pooja iam 37 male i have not been with any girl or woman in my life till now.I think i get very tensed qnd nervous whenever i think of dating or even talking to any girl thqts why iqm not even getting married plus i think i will able to satisfy her mentally and physically.Also how do i find a good girlfriend qnd wife.alwo are girla also interested in sex like males

Hi, mine is an arrange marriage, my wife had previous affair before marriage and she did not open up when asked about her past relationship, which I understand as it does not matter after our marriage. We have two children. After almost 7 years I found her cheating with my best friend and caught her red handed. She confessed and felt sorry for betraying me and promised she will not repeat again ever. I forgive her because of my kids. However we our relation was never the same again with lots of fights and arguments. She is very sort tempered and fights with whole family now and then on small matters. We eventually separated, even her parents fought with her and are in no more talking terms with her. Now I found she is having an affaire with my business partners son. What should I do now?

Hi, My GF of last 2 years gets attracted to men and shares her feelings with me as well. She developed feelings for a guy and he kissed her once when they were drunk. Later they had a talk and she informed me that they chose to be friends, they are still talk to each other so are other male friends of her. I always say she has the freedom to move on any given day but she can't cheat. She says, she is free spirited and she is ok even if I visit a prostitute house. After hours of discussion and me scolding her and she trying to justify her mental state, she promised me she will draw a circle which I am in and wont let anybody into that circle. She is in her early 30s. She has a crush another guy on insta and she plans to meet but she promised , he would just be friend. I tried to move on from relationship 2-3 times because of her above trait but she talked me back into relationship. Can I trust her?

Hi I’m married but struggling with thoughts of ethical non monogamy. My physical needs won’t be ever fulfilled in the marriage is what I feel and I really think it’s ok to have an open marriage, with my spouse in agreement of course. How do I bring this topic to discuss with my partner without getting labeled as non faithful or not in love etc?

always thinking about past love

Hi I am Anuj. I did everything for my wife. but she was under the influence of her mother left me and now filed a wrong complain in the court. tell me how can I came out and is this really advisable to stay with her again after the 3 years.

Hiii Me 40 and my distant cousin 39 started to chat after 20 years and out of the blue she asked me that did had feelings for me earlier i said yes and i said lets talk on daily basis now to which she asked do you still have feelings for me know also to which i asked shoud i lie or say the truth and then i said yes i have and will be forever to which she said tu sach mein pagal hai. I am not sure what she is thinking is she having the same feeling ??

Hi LG, I have been married for 35+ years, last Jan my wife walked out on me for no apparent reason, ours has been a troubled marriage and this is not the first time she is walking out on me. She filed a domestic violence complaint against me at the local police station, which after instigation by the police was rejected by them. Its been more than 1.5 years now since she walked out, i tried to get family elders to talk to her so as to come to an amicable settlement, but she refuses to talk. I would like to end this relationship as i do not trust her anymore, kindly let me know what are my legal options and how i can end this relationship with minimum financial and asset damage to self

I am 67 years old with married life of 41 years. my wife aged 58 years old, underwent Hysterectomy 8 years back due to ovarian cyst. I am interested in Sex. my wife doesn't have any interest in sex. we use vaginal lubricants also. how to solve this problem.

Hi there I am a 43 yrs old woman. Having understood the perils of secretly talking(chat), my bldg friend and I decided to discontinue talking. It was very difficlt for me to let go. I lost appetite, willingness and felt anxiety as I tried to move away from him. I cried inconsolably for days and yet to overcome the fact that we are friends no more. He was a genuinely good person and very mature with thoughtful words. And not just to impress. Hes not the kind to follow mob culture and has his own independent thoughts even though these might mean opposing the world or not following the fads. I still find that hes on my mind always and I want him to still make me a small insignificant part of his life. What do I do??

My ex texted me that he bought a gift for me when we were together and wants me to take it . So shall I buy something as I thought to gift him when we were together?

I am 49 years male, married and having two kids aged 16 years and 13 years. My relations with my spouse are not smooth since many years and we don't have physical intimacy and don't have sex with more than five-six years. I am attracted towards a girl aged about 30 plus years working in my office. We used to go around after office hours, had some coffee and chat and then I dropped her at her residence. I have expressed my love to her and she has responded that she will be my friend forever and don't want to disturb and ruin my family. I was okay with this as I was mentally happy to have her as my friend. But from few days, she has started ignoring me and giving late replies to my messages. I asked her to meet after office hours but she refused on one pretext or other. For few days, we don't have any communications. I was very disturbed and depressed about her behaviour. I even asked the reasons why she has changed, but she replied that she has not... Now, we are exchanging only rare few official messages...... I am so much shocked that I am not even finding courage to ask her to meet.... I fear I might lost her......Kindly advise me

I'm 48 unmarried n looking gorward to get married. I once suffered with bladder cancer which is cured. Also takes medicines for epilepsy which is under control. I'm in contact with a 45 yrs old girl who is feeling unsecured of getting married as she thinks that its too late to get married n there will be complications in conceiving a baby. Pls help how i can assure her a good life even if we are not able to hv our baby. Is it really a problem in having a baby at this age?

I m 56 now and my wife is 52 , actually We have nice sex life , We do it once in @15 days . Is it Ok or less. I think my wife is not satisfied. She expects once in a week.

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Hi, I am having an affair with my co-worker. She is married. We enjoyed a lot together, even unprotected. Now, my family has fixed my marriage. How do I break off with my co-worker? Should I take any test? Should I confess all this to my would-be wife?

Hi Love Guru, I am married now for 4 years and having a 15 months little daughter. My wife is very reluctant for physical relationship after birth of our daughter. In fact, we had last sex an year ago. Do you think this is due to parenting issues or has she lost interest in me or interest in sex altogether?